As per question, there could be four conditions, when a man and his wife invites their 7 relatives.
Condition 1: A man invites 3 ladies and his wife invites 3 gentlemen.
Number of ways = 4C3.4C3 = 16
Condition 2: A man invites (2 ladies, 1 gentleman) and his wife invites (2 gentlemen, 1 lady).
Number of ways = (4C2.3C1 ).(3C1 . 4C2) = 324
Condition 3: A man invites (1 lady, 2 gentlemen) and his wife invites (2 ladies, 1 gentleman).
Number of ways = (4C1.3C2). (3C2.4C1) = 144
Condition 4: A man invites (3 gentlemen) and his wife invites (3 ladies).
Number of ways = 3C3 .3C3 = 1
Therefore, total number of ways =16 + 324 + 144 + 1 = 485