The rules and different stages of Bengali wedding are:-
1. Bor Jatri
Bor Jatri is basically the baarat, where the groom, his family and friends dress up for the wedding and start their journey to the bride’s house or the wedding venue.
2. Bor Boron
This Bengali wedding ritual comes after the bor jatri or the baarat reaches the bride’s place. Normally, the bride’s mother along with other family members welcome the groom and his side of the family by doing aarti with the holy lamp and serving the sweets and drinks.
3. Potto Bastra
In this Bengali marriage ritual, the groom is seated at the chadnatolla, or the wedding mandap, where he is offered new clothes by the person who is to do the sampradaan. This is usually done by an elderly male member of the bride’s family, most commonly the bride’s father or uncle.
4. Saat Paak
Saat Paak is that Bengali wedding ritual where the bride sits on a low wooden stool called pidi. This stool is then lifted by her brothers and the bride is taken around the groom in seven circles. This ritual signifies that they are wound up to each other.
5. Subho Drishti
After saat paak Bengali marriage ritual, the bride and the groom look at each other in front of guests. The bride removes the betel leaves from the front of her face and looks at the groom. This exchange of loving glance marks the beginning of the couple to be together in witness of their family and friends.
6. Mala Badal
Sitting high on the pidi after the shubho drishiti, the bride and the groom exchange garlands of flowers three times. This Bengali wedding ritual marks as the first step of accepting each other as man and wife.
7. Sampradan
Sampradan is basically the equivalent of Kanyadaan in a Hindu wedding ceremony. In the Bengali wedding ritual of Sampradan an elderly male member (almost always, her father) of the bride’s family gives her hand to the groom, when both their hands are tied by a sacred thread while reciting Vedic chants.
8. Yagna
In this Bengali marriage ritual, the bride and groom sit in front of the yagna or the sacred fire and chant mantras after the priest.
9. Saptapadi
In this Bengali wedding ritual, the couple takes seven rounds around the fire or the yagna, thereby solemnizing their marriage.
10. Anjali
In this Bengali wedding ritual, an offering of puffed rice is made into the yagna by the bride and the groom. The bride’s brother gives puffed rice in the bride’s hands while the groom holds her hand to pour the offering into the yagna together.
11. Sindoor Daan
In this last and final Bengali wedding ritual, the groom applies sindoor or vermilion to the bride’s hair-parting. Thereafter, the bride is considered as a married woman, since applying sindoor is one of the many solah shringas.
